Marriage is very different from a serious relationship because it focuses on the couple as one and a lot of things will be shared between them.
NAIJ.com believes newly engaged couples need to know a whole lot of things about their partner before they say I do and here are six important things:
1. Who does what in the house
The traditional role is that the woman is the home keeper while the man is the money maker. However, if both of you have very demanding jobs, then the person who leaves work only to do more work at home will be the most stressed.
Decide if you want to have a cook, a cleaner and all that. Or decide if whoever finishes earlier does it. Or make a roster for who does what so both of you take turns. Find out what works beforehand so that after your honeymoon, things will go smoothly.
2. Family members rules and regulations
During the course of your marriage, a family member or two will visit. Some might stay for a night, some for a month and others indefinitely. It could be for health, education or financial reasons.
Both of you need to decide how long you want to put someone up and the extent of your kindness. This way, you'll already have a plan when someone shows up and wants to stay.
3. Money, money, money
You will need to discuss your financial details and your salary so you both know how much is coming in. Whoever is earning more will be seen as the bread winner and will be expected to give out more of their money in the marriage.
If you are not comfortable letting your partner know your pocket details, then don't bother getting married to them. Marriage is invasive and little to no secrets will be left as time goes on so be sure you are comfortable with this person knowing all about your bank account. The issue of lending money to friends and family also needs to be discussed.
It is rare for any couple to be equally balanced in the bedroom. Usually one person wants more and the other wants less and they have to reach a compromise. In the marriage, one person will feel more entitled to intimacy because they are stuck with the other person for life and that is something to talk about.
Decide how often you both want it, when and where and stick to it. Satisfying your partner is also a priority in your marriage before and after children.
5. Passwords and privacy.
Once you are married, one partner may feel entitled to the details of the other's personal life. This will include passwords, access to phones, emails and so on. While this maybe fair because you are both one, it may also reveal insecurity and trust issues.
Both of you should decide what boundaries you have when it comes to your relationships with other people and focus on building and keeping the trust.
6. Special dates and anniversaries.
Make a 'relationship calendar' and keep special dates marked inside. Missing a birthday or anniversary in a marriage is just asking for trouble. Your spouse will expect more from you now you are their 'one and only' so you will need to step up.
In the end, what makes a marriage work is understanding, love and compromise so know what you're getting into and be ready to spend forever with that person.
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